Punk not pink!

Retro fashion doesn’t have to be all about demure frocks, perfect hair and manicures. At the moment fashion seems to be looking back to the 70s and 80s for inspiration. Now I’m not about to suggest that you doll yourself up like Kylie in that infamous Neighbours wedding. Uggh, that was not a good look. Overall I’d have to say that 80s wedding fashions were generally ghastly.

What I DO suggest is that you ignore the frills and go punk instead! Paula Yates married Bob Geldof in 1986 and her scarlet dress and matching veil put a radical twist on the traditional Bridal outfit. Why not use Blondie as an inspiration to create a look that’s feminine but edgy and a bit messed up around the edges? Her one-shouldered dress and blond-with-dark-roots hair would look great strutting down the aisle. Annie Lennox is a woman I admire for all sorts of reasons far more significant than her fashion sense. But if you have the guts to go a bit punk, why not copy her amazing sprayed-on eye makeup from the Freddie Mercury tribute concert? So, who’s got a Groom ready to dress up like Bowie?

If you have cash to splash, the designers to choose are Vivienne Westwood and Alexander McQueen. Westwood started out dressing punks with clothes sold from her shop ‘Sex’. These days she’s calmed down a bit, but you can still guarantee her dresses will have an edge to them that’s worth paying for.

First Dance Decade?

I have to admit that watching ‘Strictly’ is one of my guilty secrets. The ‘first dance’ at your wedding is likely to be one of the only times you actually have to plan something, instead of making do with the drunken disco you usually get away with on a night club dance floor.

Although you might (I hope) want to give the orange tan, feather boas and neon colours a miss, you should think about the style of dance that would best suit you as a couple and the outfits you’ll be wearing on the day. Although I’d love to learn a Tango for my own wedding, my dress will cover up my legs and all those ‘kicks and flicks’ will be rendered invisible!

Going ‘retro’ for your dance might include learning a 40s Lindy Hop if you’re feeling energetic, a Charleston to fit your deco theme, or a classic Viennese Waltz if you are going for classic romance. Whatever you choose, practice hard and have lots of fun on the day – whatever you choose, it will be a dance to remember.

Small budget? Think 40s

I am not one of those fantasists who look back at the 1940s and think life back then was better. From talking to my own grandparents I know what a struggle life was during and after the War. This was particularly true for young couples hoping to get married. They had to deal with no time (most men and women got limited home leave from the forces), no money, and nothing to buy even if they could save up their cash and ration coupons. My Nana got married in a borrowed dress which fitted so badly she was embarrassed to wear it, and my Grandma bought a neat little suit she knew she could wear after the wedding.

If you are planning a wedding on a budget you could turn to the 1940s for some cost-saving retro inspiration.

Decorations: bunting and paper streamers

Wedding Cake: Homemade

Bride clothes: a pretty knee-length dress or a light-coloured suit

Food: In the 40s weddings were afternoon affairs. Put on a late afternoon tea with cakes and pastries. It will be cheaper than a heavy 3-course meal and you can always provide snacks later in the evening.

Another fun and economical option would be fish and chips. Maybe personalise it by printing your own wedding ‘newspaper’ to wrap it in?

Winter white

The weather has turned and as the light fades a winter chill has set in. I shiver when I think about winter brides in strapless dresses, shivering their way up the aisle. Modern dresses are usually made out of the lightest fabrics - satins, tulle, lace... But if we look back at bridal fashions in the past, the Victorians made intricate cream wool bustle gowns and in the 30s and 40s white velvet was a popular choice.

this stunning gown (a 1930s example in a classic bias-cut style) shows that even a long-sleeved velvet number can be a slinky and flattering option.

Modern dresses in velvet are hard to find but a quick trawl through Google came up with this

Dress patterns - vintage without worry

There are some drop-dead-gorgeous vintage dresses out there, and if you
see the one-off dress you can't live without then you'll need to make
sure that it's in good sturdy condition. Kate Moss made the headlines
(no change there) a few years back when the 1930s vintage silk
dress she was wearing disintegrated on a night out. You can't worry about your
dress on your wedding day, so how can you avoid a similar disaster?

You don't have to be an expert to check your dress - just take a close
look at the following:

Fabric - is it strong? It needs to be supple, and have no pull marks or
tears or thin patches when you hold it up to the light.

Seams - are they intact? often old thread rots with age and becomes
weakened. Check for pulled fabric at the seams.

Fixings - does the zip work? are the buttons all there and sewn on
tightly? Do the poppers still work? All of these things can be replaced
if neccessary.

If wearing a delicate vintage dress is too much stress for you, a good
alternative to a modern wedding gown is to use a vintage dress pattern to
have a repro vintage dress made especially for you. This is the ideal way
to get the look you want but with modern fabrics and a perfect made-to-measure fit.

There are many websites that sell vintage patterns like the ones below.

Very Vintage - auctions to watch

As a retro bride you may choose a vintage dress, or decide that a reproduction frock is a better choice. If you are after good quality vintage dress in wearable condition you can take a punt on ebay but I would suggest checking out one of the auction houses that specialise in vintage textiles and fashion.

Kerry Taylor Auctions made the papers recently after selling a few of Princess Diana's dresses. They regularly hold auctions of vintage clothing ranging from Regency to high-end 80s designers. The auctions have photos to look at online and you can pick up a beautiful dress for way less than a modern wedding gown. Here are a few due to be sold on 4th October:

1970s Ossie Clark
 

1920s velvet

1930s satin or crepe

Edwardian elegance 

Four dresses in one lot

Etsy - for alternatives to a veil or tiara

If you haven’t discovered Etsy yet, do take a look. It’s a great place to start if you want something a bit different in the headwear department. I’ll do a post on tiaras and veils later on, but why not go for an alternative that will still complement your retro frock?

60s/70s hippies fantasy look – go for a scattering of white butterflies

50s – A  bow-shaped Alice band  will match your prom-style gown

40s – War-time brides like my Grandma Sally often wore a day dress or suit instead of a white wedding dress. If you plan to do the same, be inspired by Sally Bloom and choose a pretty and dramatic hat

Here's Sally in her 1945 wedding photo

Bored of Bling?

modern swarovski crystal accessories - while being undoubtledy the sparkliest on the planet are possibly a bit TOO sparkly for Retrobride. The fashions in wedding jewellery seem to stick faithfully to the sparkle or pearl options. Unless you are lucky enough have an inherited diamond necklace, or classy string of pearls, why not check out some vintage costume jewellery as an alternative? Vintage diamante is often uneven in colour, with tarnished metal settings. As long as the settings are secure and all the stones are still there, taking the edge off the sparkle tones it down and this faded sparkle adds a 'Miss Havisham' charm to your retro bridal look. 

Another retro alternative to consider is marcasite. This pewter-grey sparkly jewellery was particularly popular in the 40s and you can buy some gorgeous antique pieces for quite low prices. It's a heavier, slightly Victorian Gothic look - great if you want to turn up the drama for an evening or winter wedding. A brooch corsage or an ornate ring could add the perfect touch without making you look like a crystal diamante nightmare.

White shoes? eerrrgh

Wedding fashions have changed and evolved over the years but one unfortunate fashion seems to have stuck - why on earth do we spend money on white satin shoes? There are so many alternatives and metallic shoes are a great idea. Still light, pretty, special - but with a bit of glamour. No need to worry about them being stained by mud and dust either. These vintage 30s and 40s strappy examples would look amazing peeping out under any style of dress:

Now that we are coming up to party season the shops are full of metallic shoes in all styles. Check out the selection at Schuh metallic shoes

Goodwood Glam

I was lucky enough to be one of the 40s girls walking about in uniform at the 2011 Goodwood Revival. A motor racing event might not be the most obvious place to look out for wedding style inspiration, but Goodwood had it all!

The event is a fantastic opportunity to spy out some retro looks. Outfits ranged from 20s flapper to 60s dolly bird with everything in between. In the market area apart from all the vintage clothes stalls there were also makes like Vivien of Holloway and Biba selling their retro-inspired frocks.

Vivien of Holloway  ( which you can find here Vivien of Holloway )is an ideal choice for a curvy bride looking to show off her Marilyn figure, while Biba has revived the long slim 70s silhouette that suits slim girls with long legs and a small bust. If Kate Moss's hippie look made you smile, maybe have a look at Biba's bridal range:  Biba bride

Who is RetroBride?

About me:

I'm 36, and work as an Academic Administrator at Oxford University, but with quite a lot of Film Extra work on the side. I shall be marrying Sam, who is a 28yr old Quantity Surveyor from Cheltenham. We will be getting married in May 2012, at the Divinity School in Oxford's Bodleian Library (which used to double up as the Hogwarts infirmary).

Sam and I met at a Tudor historical reenactment four years ago and I've always been a retro girl at heart. My wardrobe is packed with Victorian bodices, 60s mini dresses and 50s frocks. I describe myself as 'retro' rather than 'vintage', because I like to mix old styles without getting too bogged down by sticking to one era. When I was a kid I spent my pocket money on 50s dresses in Camden Market and now I'm getting married I have all sorts of retro styles and ideas I'd like to use. Most of all I want the wedding to be OURS - not a bland copy of somebody else's.

I was shocked and delighted when Sam proposed, half-way up a mountain while were on holiday in Cuba. Although the planning is daunting, so far we have had a lot of fun just bouncing ideas around. I might be a retro girl but I don't have retro attitudes - it's important to me that our wedding is as much Sam's day as my own. He's already created a webpage for our guests to refer to, so in his own way he's as creative as I am.

Now the date and venue are booked I can't wait to get on with the finer details. Deco decadence or Venetian vamp? Victorian elegance or 50s rock and roll, even Bollywood or Moulin Rouge? It will be fun finding out! One thing I can say for sure is that a Harry Potter themed wedding is out of the question, despite our magical venue...